To Be a Mother

A little something I caught by the tail and put on the page, just in time for today:

after a haircut
i held you in the
shower.
your body
molded perfectly to
mine
and you were calm
and i was calm
and i remembered what it’s like
to be one body
which is what it is
to be
a mother.

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Elora’s Spring Flowers Birthday Cake

Last December, we celebrated Elora’s 5th birthday in Los Angeles, so while this springtime cake may not seem like an obvious choice for a winter birthday, it was actually perfect. 😉

easter dessertsThis Jelly Belly Flower Cake from the always fabulous Glorious Treats has been in my mind since I saw it, and Elora loved it to too, so that’s what I planned. I ordered the Jewel Collection Jelly Bellies before we left for California, and also packed my trusty cake turntable, angled spatula, and Wilton gel colors (they add color without watering down the frosting, which regular food coloring tends to do). (Thank goodness for free checked bags!)

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My secret to making very decorative cakes a do-able endeavor is to — gasp! — use a cake mix. Honestly, no one’s paying that much attention to the cake itself, and if they were, cake mixes are tasty, and if nothing else, predictable in terms of texture, etc.

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easter dessertsI will say that slicing over half a pound of tiny Jelly Bellies was a labor of love. Dear helped, and when we ended up with more Jelly Belly flowers than absolutely necessary, I simply slapped more flowers on the cake. Why not, right?

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We all enjoyed it, and, most importantly, my little birthday girl was celebrated with the cake she’d anticipated and talked about for so long.

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Hop on over to Glorious Treats for full instructions.

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Hi friends!

Just wanted to let you all know that I’ve started as a contributor to Apartment Therapy, something I’m incredibly excited about. Apartment Therapy was one of the very first blogs I read consistently when I first got married and had my own, then, apartment. I barely applied when I saw they were looking for contributors but I ended up just going for it, even though I didn’t really have the time to do it or to do it absolutely as perfectly as I would have liked. Lesson learned: GO FOR IT!! push past the myriad ways you could (legitimately) excuse yourself and just give something you want a shot.

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Anyway, I wanted to share the articles I’ve written over on AT, because I think they’d interest many of See Mommy Doing’s readers.

The House that Cleans Itself

Color Block Curtains: Adding Color Without Pattern

5 Ways to Declutter: Conquer Clutter Before It Conquers You

7 Beautiful Spice Rack Storage Solutions

Better Sleep and Allergy Relief: How To Banish Dust Mites from Your Bed

(Image credit: Apartment Therapy)

Mommy Goes to School

I’ve been a bit quiet around here, but it’s for good reason: I went back to school this fall!!

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I’m working toward a Master’s in Speech Language Pathology, and I just started the prerequisites, via a second Bachelor’s — and it’s all distance learning. This semester I’m taking Language, Speech, and Hearing Development and Anatomy of the Speech Mechanism. And I’m loving it.

I’m often asked how I do it all. And the answer is: I don’t.

For instance, I have my cleaning checklist. I try to get to my three cleaning chores a day, but if I don’t accomplish one — or any, as is often the case — I (gasp!) check it off my list anyway. This keeps me from feeling behind or that things are piling up or that I’m neglecting my family’s home because I am in school and why am I doing this anyway and… See, I need to just halt that train of thought, and I do that by putting my sometimes-undone chores out of my mind, knowing they’ll pop up on my planner next week. how do I do it all? I don't

I have a babysitter come two mornings a week to watch the boys while Elora is at VPK. This gives me some solid chunks of schoolwork time, which I augment with schoolwork during the kids’ naptime, after they are down at night, and a few hours most weekends. Compartmentalizing my time this way really helps keep me from feeling torn when I’m doing schoolwork (although I still often do) and feeling stressed about schoolwork when I’m with the kids. I’m doing my best to be where I am, to be present and focused. I’d rather be wholly one place at any time than partially a few places all the time. So far, this is working well. And when I feel sad not to be with the kids, I remind myself that my focused bursts of schoolwork give me quality time with them that’s undistracted by something else.

When something comes up with the family or other activities, I give those things room to come first. For instance, when I needed and wanted to prepare for Danny boy’s birthday the same weekend I hosted a baby shower, I knew that I’d get a bit behind in my studies. But I consciously decided that that was okay and that I wanted to prioritize life over school. So I let it go. No problem.
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Dear is a tremendous help. He works from home, which gives me extra peace of mind while the babysitter is there with the kids. He helps with the children a lot and is always, always supportive practically and emotionally. woman outside by car

Some other activities are gathering a bit of dust (like this blog, lately), but I figure that when I’m on break I’m going to feel like I have gobs of time and I’ll enjoy sewing, catching up on Project Life, and composing some blog posts.

I’m really excited to share some things  with you about this new chapter in our lives. I want to tell you about my Samsung Galaxy Note 10.1 and how it’s not only the best school tool but the best Mommy tool ever (way better than an iPad ;)), and I want to share with you some of the things I’m learning about language development. It is absolutely fascinating and such helpful knowledge as we raise young children.

See you soon!

P.S. I’m sure you’ve noticed the Facebook Like popup box, and I hope that wasn’t too obtrusive. The simple act of “liking” See Mommy Doing on FB can greatly increase my blog traffic and is not only a morale booster for me, but also part of what can help me keep this blog going long term. So thanks for your support! (You can hit the “like” button on the top right of this page too. :))

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